LETTERS FROM WOMEN AND MEN

LETTERS

Mistress Lori,

My wife, (Sharon) and I have been involved with male chastity for the past several years and I use one of your devices, the #3 Frenum or a model just like it. I read Mistress Angela's article in your links area and found it interesting and I agreed with many of the points in it. A couple of the things I'd like to comment on and that using your device has changed, are my attitudes towards sex with Sharon and women in general, for that matter. One is that males learn about sex through masturbation. After they learn that, it's only natural to seek out a female and for allot of guys it ends up being what I call the "masturbation doll" syndrome. Essentially the woman's body becomes a more pleasurable way to masturbate and you don't think only about your pleasure or at least not much about hers. Male chastity has changed my "attitude" towards intercourse with my wife. She doesn't remove the device (we have an agreement) until she's ready for sex. When we have intercourse I don't have the attitude that I'm "screwing" her but that I'm massaging a special part of her body to give her pleasure, to bond, to exchange body fluids, and to become one. After all this is a special time when life is conceived. Sex is more spiritual this way. If more men learned this, marriages would be happier. Your device works very well and I enjoy the teasing it creates along with what Sharon does-we really enjoy it. I would say the only drawback, which is part of the male chastity experience, are the morning erections that happen that cause discomfort but it's that discomfort that prevents orgasm and ejaculation, which is the intention of the tube. Thanks, Steve.

A real life story from a woman's point of view.

Ms. Lori, This is A. again. I promised you a story about my experience of chastity and what lead me to your site. First let me say that I am no mistress. I am a common wife with a normal sex drive who wants to feel love and respect.

So how did I get involved in chastity? My husband is addicted to sex and it was hurting our marriage. For me, each time that I walked into the
computer room and caught him looking at other women it crushed me. At one point I had enough of it and asked him to get out of my house. I
never threatened divorce but needed separation to protect myself from more pain. It got him thinking at some point because he began to seek
help for his problem.

Years past and he fell into it again but this time he felt guilty and began to search out other remedies. Enter chastity. He told me about
these devices that would keep him from masturbating which would keep him from porn (doesn't always work this way). So we bought a plastic
device. He fought me several times on wearing it because it made him feel uncomfortable, or made him feel like less of a man...the list
went on. Then all of the sudden he quit fighting which at this point was weird for me and so I decided to check into these devices more.
It turns out the cage was ineffective because he could pull out. I was very upset (holding back stronger language).

Hurt and betrayed I began a more intensive search for a good chastity remedy and found Lori's website. Very pleased with the information on
those devices and how inescapable they are I ordered one and my husband agreed to get a PA piercing.

I thought that he complained a lot with the first device. Well, when this one came it got worse. Turns out that chastity in her device is
completely real and it kept the pleasure completely out of his hands. To be honest, life with him sucked for a while. I found out quickly
that sex was not just a big problem in his life, it was astronomically huge. In fact it was just about all he could think about.

So how did I handle that situation? I knew I could not live with the complaining but at the same time I could not live with a man
constantly pleasing himself and lusting after other women. So I did more research, but it was very disappointing at first. Clearly men
were writing most of this stuff. But, there are some women out there with useful information. Most of the information had elements of
dominance and humiliation but the surrounding information was good. I always say "eat the meat and spit out the bones". I found that the
most sound advice was a period of denial long enough for the body to get used to the lack of chemical sexual highs. This period is also
helpful in showing that you are committed and serious about the lifestyle of a chaste husband. I suspect for most of us who actually
use a secure device, are more about serious practicability rather than fantasy anyway.

So after we made love one night I had him go and put the Lori tube back on (at this point I had never used restraints before because I am
not into domination). After it was back on I took the key and hid it in my usual spot. But this time was different. I woke up the next
morning and went to a bank and got a safe deposit box in my name and put the keys in it. He stayed chaste for 5 months. It was very hard
on me because he was constantly asking for relief, and I wanted him badly too, but I never once caved in.

During that period I realized that as time went on, things were getting better, albeit very slowly. I did not want to let him out any
longer than was required for us to make love. So I caved and purchased a good pair of real restraints. I told him that it is
simple "I will let you out of the cage, but you will be restrained". So that's what I did.

From there I established a routine for us which works for my sex drive, and keeps him check too. My sex drive is not unusual, I like
to have some sort of romance about once to twice a week. I am not preoccupied with size really and when it comes to intercourse I do
love it, but I can usually be just as satisfied without it. In short intimacy really "rocks my world". Of course a good night going crazy
in bed is lovely when the time is right for me. My rule is for him to remain locked constantly unless he is restrained and we are going to
make love. Sounds like the cliché scene but that is how it is. He doesn't like that option but it is his only one. Now I keep the key
in our floor safe, which I only know the combination to, and it only opens once he is restrained.

By now he has learned that asking for release from his cage falls on deaf ears. I don't respond. He gets out when I am ready for
intercourse and not any other time. I am not one who requires certain service before I let him out, it just only happens when I am ready.
However, he is very good with his fingers, and he is a God when it comes to oral, so needles to say, I get my fill of pleasure. Other
than the chastity though, our marriage is very normal now.

I have purchased several devices from Lori, and have found all of them to be great and I've given one to my best friend who now uses it for
her Husband. I will swear my by my marriage that Ms. Lori's products work! Thanks, A.
Lori,
I sent you an email a few weeks ago regarding an accident Steve had, which I instigated, when we had returned form a party, with a little too much
imbibing. He and I failed to get the #12 Lori off in time and I found out, along with him what happens when a guy ejaculates, or tries to with it on.

We WILL NOT do that ever again! Anyway, I wanted to tell you about the bright side of of it's use and what it's done for our sex life. This may benefit
your new customers or other couples wishing to engage in the male chastity experience I didn't see anything on your website and some of the forums and
other sites may be a little "way out" for some people. We are both conservative, not real conservative but we believe in marriage, the family,
and though not religious, we do go to church a few times a year. Basically we got into this because Steve had a problem with pornography which of
course resulted in masturbation above the norm, but when one has a computer in the home it's impossible to keep out. Any with women wearing low cut
jeans, etc. the temptation is always there, and since males learn about sex and their bodies from masturbation, it's hard to break the habit. I had a
friend that educated me about these things and she had gotten a divorce and had one of your #12 tubes which she gave to me. Steve was embarrassed about
me finding out about his activities and I told him I was not going to be used as a "blow up doll" or a masturbation prop for his cravings and I said
I'd be willing to "help" with his problem and improve our sex life. The agreement was that he get the Frenum piercing and use the device. He didn't
have much choice because I was furious with his behavior. At first I was hurt by his actions, then furious, then I became understanding and wanted to
work with him to try to make our life better. I really believe there is a problem created with masturbation and porn. It's harmful.So over the past three years or so we've dong the following:

1. Both of us got into better shape. I'm a much better teaser when I look good.

2. My wardrobe has a good amount of sexy things. To tease with.

3. I sent Steve to the doctor and he got a vasectomy.

4. He's a much better lover than before. His orgasms are very strong.

5. He says he actually likes wearing the device. He admitted that after he
masturbated he felt let down, somewhat disgusted, and not really satisfied.

6. He takes vitamins like saw palmetto and others so his prostate and
seminal vesicles produce a great amount of semen, which I believe is
important in a relationship. I'm a believer that bonding chemicals are
transmitted with semen during intercourse. This is the reason I rarely will
give him oral sex. I think teasing also increases the amount of semen a man
makes.

7. I like the Frenum piercing with the bar because it puts what I call the "pinch technique"
on an erecting penis and helps close off the urethra to further deter orgasm. (The pinch technique is what I use by squeezing the
penis tip to deter premature ejaculation.)

Anyway, I just thought I'd send you this to let you know that there are just everyday women out here that appreciate the idea of male chastity and I
think you make the "classiest" devices that look nice, do the job, but are easy to wear. Steve uses an athletic supporter and I use the little numbered locks
and this works fine for us. You may pass this on to other people that inquire about your products. Sharon (and Steve)

SURVEY
How long have you been muzzled? A little over 4 years now.

What prompted you to decide to become muzzled? The desire of my Owner.

Prior to being muzzled, on average how much did you masturbate? (i.e. 2 times a day, every 3 days...)8 to 10 times a week.

Was masturbation causing a problem in your relationship? yes, it made me more arrogant and less considerate.

What type of device are you using? Please note whether you are locked using a piercing as well. I am wearing a number 7 with the newer locking style.

What is your release schedule as in how many days must you wait between releases to ejaculate?) I will not be released as my chastity is now permanent

When you are allowed to, how many ejaculations do you have N/A

What does that ejaculation feel like - is it better to wait a long time or not? Is it worth ejaculating at all or is it better to just
stay muzzled? (Some men really feel that the tradeoff of "ejaculation and the low period after that" is not worth it when compared to the 'high' you have
after a log period of denial.) I am glad that I no longer have orgasms as the trade-off was never worth it and made me not as good of a slave as possible.

Where exactly is the trade-off point (in days) between the good-feelings of riding up the curve and when you get to the point of just
"MUST" have to orgasm? The physical desire is always there but the desire to please my Owner is greater. I find great satisfaction in my suffering
as it is expected of a slave. The memory of an orgasm in theory remains strong but the actually feeling of one is starting to fade from the memory.
How do your feelings change towards your Woman (and Women in general) as you ride up the curve? I.e. we all generally agree that you lose
most of your good feelings and your respect for Woman for some period after ejaculation. The longer I am in chastity the better I act. I have
not reached a plateau yet.

How long does that last, and how does your 'Love & Respect' for your Woman grow over time. It grows daily with the chastity.
How long do you expect to remain muzzled? (i.e. 9 months, till She leaves me, forever?) My chastity is permanent and I do not anticipate it ever being removed. As my
life has adjusted to the permanent status of chastity I find it to be much richer. my health and mental status is better and my outlook on life is
more focused and enlightened.

Finally: What, if anything, do you wish your Keyholder would do differently? Don't be shy here! It's just you sharing your experiences for our
Women to better understand. I am blissfully happy now that my chastity is permanent. I am so glad that it is finally done. It was scary and difficult
to wrap my mind around at first but wonderful This was a difficult step to take but I would not change it if given the choice. The struggle is daily
but that is the life of a slave!

Both my wife and I are very pleased with our device. It is surprisingly comfortable. Depending upon which way the ring faces
seems to allow us to choose between a #7 vs. a #6 configuration. We like the more pointed down of the #6 and the way it captures everything completely
securely. I've started working out to get healthier, to loose weight and to earn freedom. It takes 6 times at the gym for any kind of release.

I know you know all of the following but here
goes...

1. It prevents masturbation and orgasm. Not been possible while I wear it.
2. Our big vibrator causes friction of the pin so using that would burn me in a place I don't want to be burnt. Prevents sneak
relief I used to get with the plastic one.
3. If I get excited it doesn't pull my balls off. For some reason, having the inside diameter the same size as when I'm soft
seems to inhibit the pulling problem. It may be the direction and shape that helps there also. Anyway, it doesn't hurt when I get excited.
4. Since it prevents too much expansion, I quickly return to normal as soon as the stimulation eases off. Its very, very
frustrating to try and try to get hard only to have it relax back into its rest state.
5. Its very clean.
6. Visually its a work of art and very warm to the touch.
7. For me, I like the shortness, smallness of it. The extra embarrassment of it being short adds to my enjoyment of it.

Linda refers to it as "Guardian", I think of it
as "Clank" (like a hard-on hitting a steel wall).

Thank you and your craftsman/artistic for your wonderful product. Fred and Linda
Hi Ms. Lori, perhaps you remember me. hmmm. I bought a chastity device from you... but then.... so have a lot of other males. lol.
I am Thomas. I told you that I could not control my sexual self, nor trust myself anymore and did not like the thought of going to jail.. so, I asked my
wife and caseworker what they thought of me getting castrated. And they both LOVED the idea... to my horror. But, I decided to do it and my wife wanted
me to do it badly. It cost $2,000 and I flew to Philadelphia, PA. to have it done. You asked me if I wanted to write an essay or something about the ordeal;
what it was like, how I felt before, during, after, and a week later, a few weeks, month, months, .... well it has been I think 3 years now.
I dare say ultimate chastity control is castration. And btw, you told me you wanted my testicles for you to wear as earrings and I asked the doctor if I
could have them and he said "no". He said they aren't allowed on airplanes etc... darn. He also said they were HUGE and that was my problem. I was so
darned oversexed. It was all I could think about, 24/7. Now? I still think about sex often. I cannot get erect like I used to. It just
does not get elongated anymore. It never gets as hard as it once did. Most of the time I decide to just go to sleep and not bother with it. However, I can
still, if I realllllllllllly want to and am willing to put forth the MUCH needed EFFORT..... I can still sort of orgasm. It feels good masturbating it, when it
does not feel very frustrating. Before, all I cared about was orgasm. Now I finally understand "foreplay". I never realized sexual contact just plain feels
good without having to orgasm. I never understood it until I was castrated. I also never knew I was a somewhat normal male.. until I lost my ability to
ejaculate. That hurts me the most, emotionally. It is sooooooooooo very upsetting that nothing comes out. I feel very less than a male. Also, the so
called orgasm in my case lasts about 2 seconds; feels good; and then is totally gone. over. done.
Knowing all this, would I have done it? NOOOOOOOOoooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!! hehe oh well.
Now I'm an expert on castration and it bothers me that I have to live this life in silence.
I don't know who I can talk to about this. It's a rough thing to endure alone.
I hope you are well, healthy and fine. I'm still married, for 19 years now. I
have 4 gorgeous daughters. I stay at home and am the house dad while wife works.
I'm on disability (psychiatric).
And I think this letter is done. It's late after all.
Lori, Just a small update on my tube. Still working great! Here is something that may explain why some people may have problems with their
piercing and getting used to your tubes during the break-in period, and afterwards. This might be useful to you. I found that if the device was
removed and my piercing ring was worn instead for a short while, even overnight, it took some adjustment again before the piercing became
comfortable once the device was put back on. I discovered why. A normal PA ring, like my 8 gauge, is about 3/4 inch external diameter. This size of
ring makes an entry into the base of the penis at a backwards angle (from the front to the back.) Now, from just normal wear and tear from
wearing the device, my piercing was capable of taking a six gauge ring (my norm was 8), so I bought a 6 gauge ring. It is 1 1/16 inches diameter.
Here's the important point. A ring of this diameter (not the gauge is important) will enter the base of the penis at a forward angle (back to
front) which is exactly the same angle as the pin from the device enters. Whether the device is on or off, the piercing stays consistent in size and
angle. The result? I now have a six gauge piercing accepting an 8 gauge pin with no irritation or discomfort at all. This is a small point making a big
difference with me.
I said I would write to you about my views on the spirituality of male submission so here is a first mail.
I would love to have your opinions on this. If you do post (as a woman this is your choice) then please use a pseudonym. I do not
write intentionally to post, at least at this stage, but rather to you personally, to share some views with you.

I was born in 1951 and grew up in a culture where it was the man that was the bread winner and the woman that ran the house, put
the breakfast on the table and reared the children. Most of my friends, and the culture around me assumed that it was the man that was the dominant or
leader in a male female relationship and although I was not happy with this, I did not have the words to articulate this in my mind. Like all young men I
admired women, I was highly sexualized, masturbated very frequently, and spent all my time hoping to get a glimpse of leg or even panty (which sent
me to heaven). If a woman even looked at me my pulse raced, I could not think of anything else. I was confused, I believed in equality as an
answer to the male dominated society and this seemed to fit in to my liberal philosophy. In the bedroom I got compliments, but I know now this was from
the very low standards women got from men and I did not understand that the relationship was a simple one, men are there to adore and women are to be
adored. I thought my fascination with the female form had its opposite in a woman's fascination for the male form, I know now that although men think
about women's bodies almost constantly, women, although they do like an attractive man, spend far less time thinking of us, especially our male
genitalia, which is like a strange appendage, rather than the streamlined beauty of a woman. I also did not understand the amount of time women spend
thinking about their own beauty (young and old).

It was not until my mid thirties, early forties, that I began to understand that men and women are not equals. From deep within my
unconscious mind it began to emerge that a woman is superior to a man in every way. Not only is the female form like a Porsche compared to a truck, a
wondrous miracle, the finest most worshipful act of creation on the planet, but psychologically a woman is a far more advanced creature than a man.
However, I did not find women who understood this and took it for granted (as they should). Women were somehow lacking in confidence, and I put this
down to the fact that the men in their lives did not fully understand that they should get down on their knees in the presence of a woman.
When I talked deeply with women most of them seemed to understand that they were superior, but were hesitant to acknowledge this in
words somehow, I know that you have no problem with this, and this is why it is such a honor to speak to you. Let me give voice to what you already know.
Women are much more perceptive, they see everything before a man realizes. They are much more emotionally advanced than men, have a much deeper regard
for other human beings, more insight into the worlds issues, are more caring than the male, more sensitive, and are genetically much more highly
advanced. Women spend much time thinking about personal relationships and express themselves more intimately, in terms of their relationships with
the one's they love, this is a sign of their superiority rather than a thing which many many deride, for example when men laugh at the content of
women's magazines. In the bedroom women do not usually get worshipped by men, this is a tragedy. It is as if they wait for something to happen, which
does not because of the male ignorance. Because women have been taught to be submissive by this male dominated crap society they do not understand that
any man that is awarded the privilege of being with them should love honor and obey. Women of my generation did not even expect an orgasm!

In my view a woman is a church. Far more miraculous than any brick building, it is here where true worship of the Creator takes
place at the Alter of her body. It is from her that all life springs, a male would do well to realize this. I never go to church, I do my worshipping,
which is sincere and deeply felt, in the presence of my woman. Once I realized that she was my place of worship I became much happier, as did she.
A church is a bricks and mortar representation of the womb, it is from the womb that the congregation comes.

When I first began to realize my inferiority to women I became happier. Firstly, as with many males, this expressed itself through
my sexuality, I had many fem dom fantasies and craved to act them out. In particular I began dressing as a woman. Because of my slim stature and
feminine looks (at the time sadly!) and because I had a lack of beard growth, I was able to pass as a woman on the street. This was a real
privilege. I experienced, as far as it were possible, life as a woman. Admittedly this was only for short periods. I became fascinated with my
appearance, read beauty magazines, went clothes shopping and experienced many of the little things that make up a woman's life; avoiding puddles in
heels, standing at bus stops feeling the vulnerability of a woman, getting the eye from men. At this stage my feminine side opened up, and after a
struggle of acceptance I now realize that I, and in fact all men, are really women that have been genetically modified. That is, the human form is
fundamentally female, with the addition of a chromosome that makes us male. Women also have some male attributes, but we are all fundamentally female.
With the acceptance of my feminine side, I at last began to become more balanced as a person. I did not make any sex change (though I considered it
when I was having so much fun dressed), and today I hardly dress, but still regard myself as both male and female.

I am more aware emotionally of the needs of others and this has made me a far better lover. My partner, knows all this. She is a very feminine woman
and sometimes she struggles to be in charge. She is gentle and even timid. She does realize that I am right when I say she is more wonderful than me,
but she does treat me like an equal, which is in my view not right. I struggle with this, and it makes me feel something
is still wrong with our relationship. I do not need her to demonstrate my inferiority by extreme measures (though sometimes I think this would be
great), I just really need to know that she accepts me as her inferior, not as her equal, then our relationship would be on a proper footing. I am
romantic, and treat her like the Goddess she is, but she still treats me like an equal. I understand this is her way of loving me, I appreciate
this, but something is wrong. I realize that she needs to look up to me too, but really between being a man and being a woman there is no contest. I
crave a woman that knows this instinctively, reminds me constantly, and acts upon it. Please don't think I am an unsuccessful wimp, this is far from the
case. I am successful in life and highly creative, it's just that I am a man, and should be treated as such, by my woman. Can you help me with this? Todd

How to keep him Interested:

I have come across a way to use my device that enormously increases my frustration level which is very helpful to
use immediately after the rare allowed ejaculation, as it practically eliminates 'down time'. Here's how it works.
I wear a #6. My mistress will have me tied on my back for release. Immediately after reinstalling the device, she takes a masturbation sleeve made
of cyberskin, lubricates it (with either mineral oil or a silicone lubricant such as ("Gun Oil"), and then installs the sleeve over the chastity device.

She then turns me over so I'm tied down on my stomach, Now there is a fair amount of pressure on the ring surrounding my testes and penis so, even though I
have just ejaculated, within a few seconds, an erection attempt occurs. This may sound like a good thing but, as you know, the more I try to move around
and stimulate myself, the worse it gets. I have found that I can have many "orgasms" this way -- but *never, ever* have an ejaculation.
The "orgasms" are orgasm-like contractions that always end in extreme frustration because I cannot, of course, have an erection. The worst
of all is that immediately after an "orgasm" (within 60 seconds), another erection attempt begins. This is very soon punished by more extreme
stimulation and -- again -- no ejaculation. After about a half hour of this, I'm begging to be released -- and am incredibly frustrated and
immediately willing and eager to serve. 30 minutes in this predicament makes me feel as frustrated as if I've been locked up for 3 days. And,
if I've not pleased my mistress during my release period, she will insert the Anerol prostate milking device. This intensifies the denial much more.
And even when I must also endure the Anerol, never a drop of semen ever gets out. (This is also true if I'm punished
using this method several days after my last ejaculation.) You just have to experience this to understand how effective this is in getting
me back in 'service mode' immediately after ejaculation.

Another benefit to my mistress is that, since I'm already restrained during my permitted release, there's very little for her to do. Just slide the
sleeve over my #6, and flip me on my stomach. And then watch. She finds it very entertaining!

I hope this helps women whose males who suffer from a 'quiet period' after ejaculation. Sentence him to half an hour of this, and he'll be as good as new!

Ms. Lori
I just wanted to write once again and let you know how things are going. I believe that you have the perfect device with this spiral! I am still
locked since the fourth, the first time we put it on. I have had no real soreness or irritation! I am not sure how long I am to stay locked, but I am
sure if there is no reason to take it off... Thank you so much for the great product, I know that it is perfect and I recommend it highly to everyone I talk
to about it! It is such a big step in security though, you have to really trust your partner to hand over the keys to this thing! I think it could stay on
forever if that is what was desired!
Thanks again,

I just wanted to thank you again for my # 6. It works so well, exactly as I had hoped. My wife likes the tube, she was not particularly interested in
belts. As I told you before, we wanted control, not domination and belts tend to be more of a bondage item and less appealing. They are also a lot
less comfortable!
The tube is like an accessory if you wish, she does not see it as so much a control item as she sees it as an acceptable security device, sort of
like a non-removable wedding ring. I have no problems removing it if I wish, I can do so freely but only when she is with me as she has the key, we
agreed to that. Most of the time, I have no desire to remove it, the feeling is quite natural and sexy.

It is totally impossible for me to achieve orgasm while wearing the tube even with prostate massage. It focuses all the sexual energy toward her,
there is no alternative and in that regard, the control is there in a kinky sort of way. It's amazing how much happier we both are! No BS.

This is very confidential, but the main reason I wanted a tube was not only to enhance a relationship, but I was in a antsy part of my life and
still am at 50. I was worried I would weaken and do something I would regret. That is now impossible.

The device is now very comfortable, occasional minor irritation at night that goes away when I sleep. I give myself a break every three or four days
overnight just to be sure everything is ok. Other than that, it's on full time. I'm still not sure if some disfigurement might occur if the device was
never removed. Maybe you have some insight into this.

I wanted to pass on some helpful advice for measuring. It is very important I have found that the device be measured to fit the penis from the
point at which the testie ring is permanently situated. For me, the ring moves quite a bit forward from the body naturally before achieving a point
of equilibrium. If I measure the tube length from my body it will be too long as the ring moves forward pulling the tube forward and puts pressure on
the piercing.

Originally, I measured the shortest possible length that my penis could be flaccid for the tube and this length proved to be about right. But a more
accurate way might be to take a ribbon and tie it around behind the scrotum as a normal ring would be. Now with the penis flaccid at a normal length,
not the shortest possible length, measure from the ribbon to the penis tip or whatever to get your proper length.

As you say in your material, it does not have to cover everything, just the sweet spots. I like your new high security imbedded locks, maybe I will
buy another tube later on. I am honestly one of the people out there who bought a device for safety and control, the kinky part of it (having my wife
keep the keys) is secondary to this but still a very important point! Both she and I feel secure when I am wearing the device as it totally
inhibits any spontaneous or unplanned activities which at my point in life I am unable to control completely. I plan to wear the device and
remove it only in her presence. So it is important that it work for me and be practical.
My # 6 came this week. It is beautifully made I must say! I was away on business until Saturday night at which time I began using it. I have
worn it for up to 36 hours now continuously, there was no serious discomfort or edema which is common with new devices, I think this
device may be my solution to long term permanent wear, I will know better in a week or so. It has been a real struggle to find a device that is wearable,
comfortable, hygienic and effective. This new device is virtually inescapable, for me is impossible to masturbate to orgasm while wearing.
I have tried! It is practical in everyday use and is esthetically pleasing to the eye.

The device on me does need to be supported. The problem I had in the past is that I can shrink very small when totally flaccid. This actually
will then pull on the piercing and make it sore. The new device I measured for at my shortest possible length and as a result it does not
slip forward and pull on the piercing.

I was wondering if I could have another testie ring made with two small metal loops attached, one on each side at the top for the purpose
of attaching a waistband. I am currently threading a small cord around the ring at the top and then, tying it around my waist. I could then use a
small metal clips to attach a waistband to the ring, this would be very streamlined and neat looking. Overall, I think the fitting is just about perfect,
perhaps could have been another 1/4 inch in length without going too long, but this probably is the ideal size and fitting. The top lock for me is
unnecessary as the screw holds the ring on tightly and there is no use or loss of security in undoing the screw if the lock on the piercing is in place. So the top of the
device is even flatter and completely unnoticeable.

I just wanted to thank you for your work. I can see a lot of effort went into making the device and that it is a valuable asset for me. I am
just hoping it will work out long term. If you have any suggestions as to how to break in my piercing on the device, it would be appreciated.
My piercing is well healed, over 1 1/2 years now. I do soak it in the device and drink lots of water to urinate frequently. Today the device
is hardly noticeable, I had it off last night to give the piercing a break, there was no signs of any problems this morning. Let me know if
you want to hear updates from me. Thanks, John

Mistress Lori,

My wife has said that it is ok for me to share my experiences with you...How long have you been muzzled? Eight and a half years

What prompted you to decide to become muzzled? My wife caught me masturbating and things developed from there.Was masturbation causing a problem in your relationship? Not as far as I was concerned and since my wife didn't know it was going on I reasoned that it
wasn't hurting her either. However I now see that this was like saying that an affair is ok if it is a secret!
What type of device are you using? For discreet wear I use a CB2000 and more recently a CB3000 and Curve. When I'm alone with my
wife/mistress she often uses one of the many steel items she has acquired over the years from Mr. S Leather Fetters in the USA.

What is your release schedule (as in how many days must you wait between releases to ejaculate?) It is different every time, Karen (my wife/mistress)
keeps me in the dark about her intentions and I am strictly forbidden to ask about it. However, over the last few years it has mostly been every two or three months,
ranging from six weeks up to eighteen weeks. Years back I was made to wait for just over a year but these days she is pretty generous.

When you are allowed to, how many ejaculations do you have or are you allowed to ejaculate? Just once

What does that ejaculation feel like - is it better to wait a long time or not? Is it worth ejaculating at all or is it better to just stay muzzled? (Some men really feel
that the tradeoff of ejaculation and the low period after that is not worth it when compared to the 'high' you have after a log period of denial.)

The pleasure of the orgasm and the emotional release leave me feeling pretty satisfied. I think to be completely at peace I'd need a second or third orgasm
later that day but that never happens. The climax is definitely worth it.

Where exactly is the trade-off point (in days) between the good-feelings of riding up the curve and when you get to the point of just "MUST" have to orgasm?

Within an hour or two of ejaculation she is masturbating me again and starting to build up my frustration again. It takes about a week or so to get me up to my normal
levels of frustration again. I am about as aroused as I ever get after about ten days.

How do your feelings change towards your Woman (and Women in general) as you ride up the curve? (I.e. we all generally agree that you lose most of your good feelings
and your respect for Woman for some period after ejaculation).

She says that she notices that after an orgasm I tend to be less attentive to her needs. I suspect she is right because for a short period I don't feel the desperate need
to ejaculate. Although I do try to avoid any drop off in my behavior, without that high level of frustration driving me it is difficult to focus on
her needs in the same way as I do usually. As to respect, I have learn over the years to treat my wife and all women with great respect. I don't
get resentful of Karen when she doesn't let me come because I love her and trust her to reward me when she feels the time is right. However, immediately after
ejaculation my attitude towards her does change. Initially I feel immense gratitude and love for her but this quickly subsides and is replaced by a
sadness and loneliness. I am sad after milking (which occurs every two weeks) because the opportunity to ejaculate has gone but I feel loved because she
cuddles me until I'm ready to be masturbated again - which can be several hours. However Karen doesn't like me ejaculating and thus leaves me on my own after
wards because she has negative feeling about me at that time. This is because she has gone to great lengths to feminize me and suppress my male
aggression and feels that ejaculation is a very male thing and thus not appropriate for her gentle light Lady Boy hubby. Also, she says that she
resents the implication that the only reason I serve her is to get my own release. We've discussed her feeling in the past and talked (with her
permission for me to express a view on it) about complete denial. I love her and want to please her but complete denial is too much for me and I
think it would damage our relationship. She is right that ejaculation is linked to maleness and thus could be seen encouraging male aggression.
However, she ensures that I and completely immobilized during masturbation and forbids even the most limited thrusting or squirming. Thus she has
complete control and the ejaculation can be seen as something she makes happen - completely out of my control. This, plus me being dresses in heels,
stockings and a corset at the time helps her to be more accepting of my ejaculation. As to the idea that I am only serving her to get this reward,
I guess when you get right down to it this is sort true, although I do love her and get a great deal of satisfaction when I make her orgasm. I rationalize
it this way, as I said at the top of this rather long answer, she is right that I am less enthusiastic about servicing her after ejaculation. However this
soon changes as my arousal grows with repeated masturbation sessions. I explain it like this, when I am licking her I am working towards her climax but
also towards my own. Hers might be rather more immediate than mine but it is still the case that the only way I am going to get to orgasm is to make her
come. Thus as my arousal grows my motivation to serve her is restored. If If I did not have the promise of my own orgasm as the 'light at the end of
the tunnel' I'd would not serve her with such genuine enthusiasm. Sorry if that sounds self serving but it is the truth.

How long does that last, and how does your 'Love and Respect' for your Woman grow over time. After my next masturbation I start to return to normal, after a few days
I'm ok again.
How long do you expect to remain muzzled? (i.e. 9 months, till She leaves me, forever?) As long as we are together which will hopefully be forever.

Finally: What, if anything, do you wish your key holder would do differently? Don't be shy here! It's just you sharing your experiences for our Women to
better understand. I wish Karen could overcome her negativity about ejaculation. I'm happy enough to wait until she is ready for me to ejaculate although
like any man I'd like to do it more often, maybe every four weeks or so would be nice. However the thing I really wish for is to be kissed and
cuddled when I've ejaculated like she does after milking.I have had him locked since your letter. He was always babbling about loss of size and now he doesn't have an out. I think his fantasy
was a little more than he bargained for!!! Now that he's not masturbating all the time, he spends more time doing my housework and spending time with me. He
STOPPED playing on the computer!!!!!!!!! I said he stopped playing on the computer. Now he actually talks to me and even listens.

One day he sat down and talked to me for about 20 minutes and told me how he thinks it so terrible how house wife's lose their identity
taking care of the house and kids, running around doing errands, cooking and cleaning, they don't go out with their friends as much and eventually they just
don't know who they are anymore. By the time he was finished my jaw dropped soooo hard, I'm sure some Chinaman in Beijing has a concussion. I thought, who
is this man. I told another housewife about his talk and she wanted him to talk to her husband!!! Although I couldn't tell her about the lock, she'd flip.
As far as giving him a play day I came up with a better idea. My husband is kind of a chronic masturbator, so after about two weeks in his lock he was
ready to burst. (We used to have that CB2000 and I think he squeezed a few out with that one.) SO anyway, one day I caught him with my vibrating bullet up his
ass and playing with my vibrator. At first I was mad, but he looked so pathetic I decided to him him finish. About 40 minutes later he came - like a desperate
housewife. So I decided let him do that twice a month. As far as sex, he gives excellent oral sex and I found out my glass dildo can be better than the real thing!!!
When I found out how much money my husband spent on this thing I WAS PISSED.

But now I can honestly say it was worth every red cent and then some!!! Sorry for the longwinded letter, but I'm ready to burst, as I don't have anyone else to tell.

By a loving wife (and Keyholder)

My name is Techie and I have a dark secret. I am a Keyholder. I hold the key to the lock that controls the sex of my husband of 35+ years.
His wearing the lock is not about ME. It is about US! After 32 years of marriage we were losing interest in each other. Gone was the romance, the tenderness,
the warm cuddles, the sweet consideration on both our parts and the really great sex. Now sex was something that happened when He wanted it. It was in out, a kiss,
a hug and later. In short our sex life was designed around his satisfying a need, about once a month, with only minimal consideration given to my wants. There was always
little or no foreplay and I was totally bored with that part of our life. Many times my husband was simply not up to it. Then one friend suggested I try an
Internet chat room for senior sex. There I ran into a OB/Gyn from Columbia who said that part of my problem was a low estrogen level typical of women who are 50 plus,
but that didn't have to be. There were two routes I could take, estrogen replacement therapy or pills or being stimulated and having sex daily.
I proposed that to my husband who said that would mean Viagra and testosterone therapy, which would cost about $55.00 per week. Did you know that each Viagra pill costs
$7.50? He said as he left the room. I got the OB/Gyn to meet me in a private room and got her phone number and made an appointment to meet her at her home. Before the
appointment I talked about the situation with friends who said that it was a normal part of aging. I did not like that
answer. When I met the Doctor at her home I told her my problem and she told me of a radical solution. Now you must have an open mind and a willing husband to make this work.
Did you know that if your husband were to wear a locking chastity device and you were the keyholder in about 2 days his testosterone level would climb to that
of a 30 year old? Would that help regain his energy and desire for sex and romance? I asked. Of course! It worked for my husband and I and about 100 other couples
we have coached. How did you get him to agree? I found a lady engineer named Kathy. Kathy had designed the perfect device, it is called a "Chastity Device".
It is locked around your husband's penis between the head and the shaft. With it in place he cannot masturbate, or get any sexual relief. He is
constantly teased by its presence. By the way an erection is a very uncomfortable experience. With that she invited her husband into the room. Lover, this lady is K
and she is having the same problems we once had. Would you please show her your Chastity Device and tell her about it? He willingly dropped his slacks and underwear to
reveal a lock around his penis. The Doctor took hold of the lock and tilted it so I could see it as she explained. This lock is modified with a piece called a saddle
on the lock body, some little drops of weld on the bail or the part that does the locking and a rubber/epoxy coating so it does not irritate. The saddle has a groove in it so I can urinate
with no restriction. The drops of weld and the upper edges of the saddle prevent removal without the key. It fits tight, but does not restrict blood flow. With this in place
my sex is totally under her control. Now for the neat part. She said, pointing to the steel rings on the front and top of the lock. I wanted to have some fun with him.
So I had it made with a single loop in the front and three large loops on the bail, to top part of the lock.

No problem. I agreed. Why the mods? She giggled as she explained. The front loop is for fun, say a leash or maybe a bell. The top loops
are to make the lock bulky enough so that in order to urinate He cannot go through the fly of his slacks and underwear, instead he must drop his slacks and underwear. He
will have to go in a stall. I wanted him to see what I have to go through just to urinate. But most importantly the Chastity Device might well be our salvation of all women
because if a man cannot have an affair or unprotected sex the threat of HIV and other STDs are eliminated. Not only must my husband be faithful, because he cannot have any
form of sexual relief, he is also highly motivated to save it all for me. In reality our sex has never been better! The doctor pulled a chain with a gold key up from her
sweater. How do you feel? I asked. I feel like a teenager. I have more energy and I think of my wife every time the lock sways and teases me. he replied confidently.
Would you two mind explaining this to my husband? No problem, usually we invite several other couples who are using the lock. The men in our group,
the Brotherhood of the Latched, will help your husband through adaptation to putting on the lock and giving you the key.
How soon could I get a lock? I asked. I have several different sizes in stock. All I have to do is to file the saddle for precise fit and have the protective
coating installed. The doctor explained. Now our life is great.

On his 60th birthday he had a full physical with all the blood work. Guess what? His testosterone level was acceptable for a man in his 30's. My husband is now truly
my lover. He romances me every day. Every morning I am awakened with a loving caress, kisses and a full body massage. He knows that sex happens only when I want it so he
tries to make the massage a stimulating and erotic as possible. If I am distracted or not interested he can add direct genital stimulation in order to make me really want
sex. With the lock in place I am his only sexual relief, he cannot: Masturbate Have an erection Have any form of sexual release. Correct fit is critical so that escape is
impossible and urine flow is not obstructed. The lock must not be uncomfortable or too comfortable either, its fit must present a perfect balance of control, security
and freedom. My husband/ lover of these 30 + years is not a slave, but a willing partner who has given me and me alone control of his sex. By placing himself
in the Chastity Device and giving me the key he has displayed the ultimate example of trust, faith and love. I love him more than ever!
I praise the comfort and of course it being escape proof on various chastity sites. Anyway, my wife has gotten to being my key keeper 100% and we have
come up with our own not written anywhere contract. Because of your device, my wife's participation, I love my wife as much as or more then I have ever loved her,
and feel as passionate as I did about her as I did over 31 years ago. We, of course do not make love as we did back then, so I had gotten in the habit
of taking that matter in my own hands, and because of that, distant myself from her a little. One does not want or need to be too lovey dovey just after
they have jerked off. I would not want my wife to want to fool around with me if I had just snuck off and jerked off 1 hour before. Anyway, thanks again.

HOW LONG? I've been muzzled for just under four years.
REASON? When I met my girlfriend I was seeing other women. She didn't mind at first, but after a year or so she wanted to put an end to me seeing them.
MASTURBATION? I masturbated about once per day, but then there were the other women as well. She never regarded the masturbation as a problem.
DEVICE? We use a CB3000 Curve which is OK but has a few problems (such as friction). We are considering having me pierced and using something else.
RELEASE SCHEDULE? We see each other about three times a week. We always have sex, after which I am let out perhaps once a week. However I may only be
allowed to then climax about 50% of the time. So, roughly, I get to come about once every two weeks. I am only ever allowed to climax once.
DOES IT FEEL BETTER AFTER A LONG WAIT? A bit, but the real factor is how much she teases me. Whenever we make love we keep going until she has had
as many orgasms as she wants (she climaxes easily and quickly). Then she will spend the final part of the session on me. If this lasts, say, over an hour
(during which time she makes me own up to humiliating things, agree to certain commitments, put me through certain types of torment, beg for release,
pay her cash to come, have the final decision on whether I climax be decided on the toss of a coin etc ) the eventual climax can be astonishing.
TRADE-OFF POINT? It depends. Sometimes, if she teases and torments me, she can have me gagging for release the day after I've come. Usually it's bad after
four days and after a week of not coming I'll agree to absolutely anything for a climax.
HAVE YOUR FEELINGS TOWARDS WOMEN CHANGED? Not towards other women. I've always treated them with respect. But my attitude towards my girlfriend has altered
enormously. She's my only sexual outlet and as such I am extremely affectionate and eager to please. I certainly respect her more than I would if I were free.
HOW LONG? We should be able to live together in about three years (when her daughters have left home). From then we'd both like it to be permanent.
WHAT WOULD I LIKE HER TO DO DIFFERENTLY? This is a difficult question because in any type of relationship where one partner is dominant the onus is often
on that person to come up with new ideas; and my girlfriend gets fed up of this sometimes. I'd certainly like her to turn the screw more, increasing her degree
of control. e.g.. Letting me climax less frequently, teasing me more, making me pay more to come etc. Recently she let me climax, then told me I wouldn't get to
come again until she'd had 25 orgasms. An excellent idea. With a lot of help from me we reached the target in six days, whereupon she let me come again.
So in this situation she could turn the screw and make a future target 35 orgasms. Keith.

Dear Mistress Lori, I thought I had sent a reply but have been having a problem with my ISP so as I have learned it did not go out. I
believe the message was something like this.

WOW this new chastity is incredible! Much more comfortable than the first one was straight out of the box. I wore it for nearly 24 hrs the first day and the ring has not been removed since
receiving it. Mistress says that all looks very good and plans to keep me in it while she is gone from the 17 to the 30 of Jan. Thank you. Michael
The update to that is since I wrote that I have been in it now for 3 days nearly. The original tube would allow me to gain somewhat of an
erection and would put incredible pressure on my piercing until I got used to wearing it and stopped erecting through the night. This one
the first night let me know who is boss! I woke a few times trying to get hard and found that it just wasn't happening. I have almost stopped having nightly erections again.
This morning Mistress surprised me with a session with the vibrator she knew I could defeat the original tube with. I had to be in the chastity for a couple of
days to do this but could have a VERY small orgasm, well I am now even more frustrated after nearly 2 hours of Her tormenting and teasing me with that vibe
she released me and watched as I tried to defeat it nothing happened not even a small tremor. 30 min later I quit too exhausted to continue to try and so horny
I was and am still begging for any relief. So in conclusion after getting this thing on Fri eve I have been locked almost continuously since and have found
this device to be the most secure and protected device we have tried you have really impressed us with yours and Paulie's ingenuity when it comes to chastity
and although I am sure I will live to regret this I love it for now. thank you. Michael & Connie
Mistress Lori, First I want to thank you for my tube. I have been slow in sending this back to you because I wanted to get some experience in the tube.
While I can't wear the tube for extensive periods of time it has been still been very effective. I wear it over night and whenever my wife does not directly supervise me.
Over time this may change as my piercing toughens. My wife wanted me to expressly thank you for her because of the effectiveness of your tube. She says that after
so many years I have finally started to learn how to make love and not just have sex. This is because after the last 5 weeks without an orgasm my expectation of having an
orgasm while making love is gone. My pleasure now comes from touching her through massage and caressing and the pleasures she achieves while we make love.
We have gone from 15-minute sex to hours of lovemaking

Some of my observations about my tube:

1. My tube is the perfect size. The diameter is small enough to be quite constrictive but not too tight to cause edema. Once my penis is through the
tube the glands of my penis acts like the barb on a fishhook preventing me from pulling out without water and lubrication. The hood is large enough to contain the
glands when I am excited yet provides protection from stimulation.

2. The pin is the most critical part of the whole tube. If it is shaped incorrectly it can cause irritation and prevents long-term use. I have access to machine tools
and make modifications as necessary. I have found that the pin needs to pivot, "during erection" back to prevent any stress on the piercing. The ridge around
my glands is sufficient to hold me in the tube while soft. I have had to do some light filing and grinding to allow the pivot and heat/bend the pin for the right shape.
It is working really well now.

3. When the testie ring is employed the tube really needs to be full length. You may recall that my tube was originally ½ inch too short, which allowed that much of my penis
to swell and expand when I was erect. The result was that the testie ring was pulled forward with that expansion and caused the infamous associated with another device the
CB-2000. I don't get any or discomfort with the corrected length tube you sent me. Again the size is close to perfect.

4. The testie ring is important for those of us with "hair trigger" orgasms. The ring actually prevents the tube from being pointed up which builds a psychological
barrier to orgasm as well as protecting the stimulation points on the penis.

5. *IMPORTANT* I have changed the lock system on my tube. The advantage is that it is lightweight, more secure than a lock, stainless steel to prevent rusting and
won't pinch or jab the scrotum. You may look at pictures of this on the "User Forum" website that I am maintaining. The lock consists of stainless screws,
which have special security heads. There are literally millions of combinations available and without a high risk grinding they can't be removed. I know because
my wife allowed me to try. At stake was two more months in chastity. I lost and will be able to tell you all about the frustration of 3 months in chastity next
March. If you are interested in using this idea as an option with your tubes I can give you all the information.
thanks from my wife and I, Stan
Review of Ms Lori Chastity Tube

I received my chastity device on Tuesday morning, my first impressions were Great service, Very well constructed. Wow this thing is heavy.
I am never going to be able to get this off without a key or a hacksaw. I put it on with some difficulty, used the stocking method for the tube,
that was the best way. Aligned the Frenum pin, not easy, but manageable and locked the padlocks. Having already given the keys to my key holder.
It was a great fit, I have ordered to big a size for the security ring and will have this remedied in the near future.

The first 24 hours. No pain, discomfort when I get aroused but not unbearable by any means. I had a very strenuous day that day and with an
hour or two almost forgot it was there. I can pee standing with out making a mess or spraying every thing in sight.

The first 4 days. Still a joy to wear it has not been off and I have had absolutely no problems at all. To compensate for the security ring
being to big a good pair of underpants do the trick.

I will send another update after a month. I have tried another device similar to this the Remy chastity tube and there is no comparison. The Lori
Tube is the ultimate for me. Thank you once again for such a great device.

Hi, I don't know if you remember me, be we spoke for a while in early April and May when I first got husband in chastity. Just wanted to update you and
tell you how great things are going! I feel like I have a new best friend, not a husband. He has become more sensitive, not only to me, but to
things in general. I see him cry now, more than I ever did before. Which could also be the hormones, but I think it is nice to see from him/her. He has also
gotten some very nice little breasts, that look very cute in a bra! They aren't huge, but they are definitely softer, fuller and more sensitive than the way
they used to look. Let's just say, he/she has to wear a jacket to work now, or people will notice. His little dick has become quite small, and doesn't get as
hard, or big as it used to, and it kind of looks cute now when I take off his chastity. I always have him strapped down when I take it off, and he doesn't cum
as hard, it kind of trickles out now, instead of shooting across the room. He always wanted me to swallow, so now I take it in my mouth and hold it, then spit
it all into his/hers... now she has to learn to swallow! I LOVE making love to him, he uses his/her tongue great, and he/she is fantastic with a strap on! I
give him pleasure about once a month, sometimes. But I am almost afraid to do that sometimes, because he becomes distant for the first couple of days after.
He dresses and puts on his makeup when he comes home, and locks his collar on too. You have helped me train him/her very well. Thank you again for your help,
and the magazine is fantastic too! My husband is the best pet any woman could ever have, and I think everyone should have a guy kept like this! Thanks again,
Jacqueline

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