Survey's and Letter's  from Chastised Males

 

Mistress Lori,   My wife has said that it is ok for me to share my experiences with you...

 How long have you been muzzled? Eight and a half years
What prompted you to decide to become muzzled?  My wife caught me masturbating and things developed from there. Was masturbation causing a problem in your relationship?  Not as far as I was concerned and since my wife didn't know it was going on I reasoned that it wasn't hurting her either.  However I now see that this was like saying that an affair is ok if it is a secret! What type of device are you using? For discreet wear I use a CB2000 and more recently a CB3000 and Curve.  When I'm alone with my wife/mistress she often uses one of the many steel items she has acquired over the years from Mr S Leather Fetters in the USA. What is your release schedule (as in how many days must you wait between releases to ejaculate?)  It is different every time, Karen (my wife/mistress) keeps me in the dark about her intentions and I am strictly forbidden to ask about it.  However, over the last few years it has mostly been every two or three months, ranging from six weeks up to eighteen weeks.  Years back I was made to wait for just over a year but these days she is pretty generous. When you are allowed to, how many ejaculations do you have are you allowed to ejaculate?)  Just once
What does that ejaculation feel like - is it better to wait a long time or not? Is it worth ejaculating at all or is it better to just stay muzzled? (Some men really feel that the tradeoff of "ejaculation and the low period after that" is not worth it when compared to the 'high' you have after a log period of denial.) The pleasure of the orgasm and the emotional release leave me feeling pretty satisfied. I think to be completely at peace I'd need a second or third orgasm later that day but that never happens.  The climax is definitely worth it. Where exactly is the trade-off point (in days) between the good-feelings of riding up the curve and when you get to the point of just "MUST" have to orgasm?    Within an hour or two of ejaculation she is masturbating me again and starting to build up my frustration again.  It takes about a week or so to get me up to my normal levels of frustration again.  I am about as aroused as I ever get after about ten days.   How do your feelings change towards your Woman (and Women in general) as you ride up the curve? I.e. we all generally agree that you lose most of your good feelings and your respect for Woman for some period after ejaculation.    She says that she notices that after an orgasm I tend to be less attentive to her needs.  I suspect she is right because for a short period I don't feel the desperate need to ejaculate.  Although I do try to avoid any drop off in my behavior, without that high level of frustration driving me it is difficult to focus on her needs in the same way as I do usually.  As to respect, I have learn over the years to treat my wife and all women with great respect.  I don't get resentful of Karen when she doesn't let me come because I love her and trust her to reward me when she feels the time is right. However, immediately after ejaculation my attitude towards her does change.  Initially I feel immense gratitude and love for her but this quickly subsides and is replaced by a sadness and loneliness.  I am sad after milking (which occurs every two weeks) because the opportunity to ejaculate has gone but I feel loved because she cuddles me until I'm ready to be masturbated again - which can be several hours.  However Karen doesn't like me ejaculating and thus leaves me on my own after wards because she has negative feeling about me at that time.  This is because she has gone to great lengths to feminize me and suppress my male aggression and feels that ejaculation is a very male thing and thus not appropriate for her gentle light Lady Boy hubby.  Also, she says that she resents the implication that the only reason I serve her is to get my own release.  We've discussed her feeling in the past and talked (with her permission for me to express a view on it) about complete denial.  I love her and want to please her but complete denial is too much for me and I think it would damage our relationship.  She is right that ejaculation is linked to maleness and thus could be seen encouraging male aggression.  However, she ensures that I and completely immobilized during masturbation and forbids even the most limited thrusting or squirming.  Thus she has complete control and the ejaculation can be seen as something she makes happen - completely out of my control.  This, plus me being dresses in heels, stockings and a corset at the time helps her to be more accepting of my ejaculation.  As to the idea that I am only serving her to get this reward, I guess when you get right down to it this is sort true, although I do love her and get a great deal of satisfaction when I make her orgasm.  I rationalize it this way, as I said at the top of this rather long answer, she is right that I am less enthusiastic about servicing her after ejaculation.  However this soon changes as my arousal grows with repeated masturbation sessions.  I explain it like this, when I am licking her I am working towards her climax but also towards my own.  Her's might be rather more immediate than mine but it is still the case that the only way I am going to get to orgasm is to make her come.  Thus as my arousal grows my motivation to serve her is restored.  If If I did not have the promise of my own orgasm as the 'light at the end of the tunnel' I'd would not serve her with such genuine enthusiasm.  Sorry if that sounds self serving but it is the truth.
  How long does that last, and how does your 'Love & Respect' for your Woman grow over time.    After my next masturbation I start to return to normal, after a few days I'm ok again.   How long do you expect to remain muzzled? (i.e. 9 months, till She leaves me, forever?) 

As long as we are together which will hopefully be forever.
 
Finally: What, if anything, do you wish your key holder would do differently? Don't be shy here! It's just you sharing your experiences for our Women to better understand. 
 
I wish Karen could overcome her negativity about ejaculation.  I'm happy enough to wait until she is ready for me to ejaculate although like any man I'd like to do it more often, maybe every four weeks or so would be nice.  However the thing I really wish for is to be kissed and cuddled when I've ejaculated like she does after milking.

 

  I have had him locked since your letter. He was always babbling about loss of size and now he doesn't have an out. I think his fantasy was a little more than he bargained for!!! Now that he's not masturbating all the time, he spends

more time doing my housework and spending time with me. He STOPPED playing on the computer!!!!!!!!! I said he stopped playing on the computer. Now he actually talks to me and even listens. One day he sat down and talked to me for about 20 minutes and told me how he thinks it so terrible how house wife's lose their identity taking care of the house and kids, running around doing errands, cooking and cleaning, they don't go out with their friends as much and eventually they just don't know who they are anymore. By the time he was finishes my jaw dropped soooo hard, I'm sure some Chinaman in Beijing has a concussion. I thought, who is this man. I told another housewife about his talk and she wanted him to talk to her husband!!! Although I couldn't tell her about the lock, she'd flip.     As far as giving him a play day I came up  with a better idea. My husband is kind of a chronic masturbator, so after about two weeks in his lock he was ready to burst. (We used to have that CB2000 and I think he squeezed a few out with that one.) SO anyway, one day I caught him with my vibrating bullet up his ass and playing with my vibrator. At first I was mad, but he looked so pathetic I decided to him him finish. About 40 minutes later he came - like a desperate housewife. So I decided let him do that twice a month. As far as sex, he gives excellent oral sex and I found out my glass dildo can be better than the real thing!!!!!! When I found out how much money my husband spent on this thing I WAS PISSED. But now I can honestly say it was worth every red cent and then some!!!!!!! Sorry for the longwinded letter, but I'm ready to burst, as I don't have anyone else to tell.

 

My Dark Secret            By a loving wife (and Keyholder)   My name is Techie and I have a dark secret. I am a keyholder. I hold the key to the lock that controls the sex of my husband of 35+ years. His wearing the lock is not about ME. It is about US! After 32 years of marriage we were losing interest in each other. Gone was the romance, the tenderness, the warm cuddles, the sweet consideration on both our parts and the really great sex. Now sex was something that happened when He wanted it. It was in out, a kiss, a hug and “later”. In short our sex life was designed around his satisfying a need, about once a month, with only minimal consideration given to my wants. There was always little or no foreplay and I was totally bored with that part of our life. Many times my husband was simply  “not up to it”. Then one friend suggested I try an Internet chat room for senior sex. There I ran into a OB/Gyn from Columbia who said that part of my problem was a low estrogen level typical of women who are 50 plus, but that didn’t have to be. There were two routes I could take, estrogen replacement therapy or pills or being “stimulated” and having sex daily. I proposed that to my husband who said “That would mean Viagra and testosterone therapy, which would cost about $55.00 per week. Did you know that each Viagra pill costs $7.50?” He said as he left the room. I got the OB/Gyn to meet me in a private room and got her phone number and made an appointment to meet her at her home. Before the appointment I talked about the situation with friends who said that it was a normal part of aging. I did not like that answer. When I met the Doctor at her home I told her my problem and she told me of a radical solution. “Now you must have an open mind and a willing husband to make this work. Did you know that if your husband were to wear a locking chastity device and you were the keyholder in about 2 days his testosterone level would climb to that of a 30 year old? “ “Would that help regain his energy and desire for sex and romance? I asked. “Of course!” It worked for my husband and I and about 100 other couples we have “coached”. “How did you get him to agree?” “I found a lady engineer named “Kathy”.  Kathy had designed the perfect device, it is called a  “Chastity Device”.  is locked around your husband’s penis between the head and the shaft. With it in place he cannot masturbate, or get any sexual relief. He is constantly teased by its presence. By the way an erection is a very uncomfortable experience.” With that she invited her husband into the room. “Lover, this lady is K and she is having the same problems we once had. Would you please show her your Chastity Device and tell her about it?” He willingly dropped his slacks and underwear to reveal a lock around his penis. The Doctor took hold of the lock and tilted it so I could see it as she explained. “This lock is modified with a piece called a saddle on the lock body, some little drops of weld on the bail or the part that does the locking and a rubber/epoxy coating so it does not irritate. The saddle has a groove in it so I can urinate with no restriction. The drops of weld and the upper edges of the saddle prevent removal without the key. It fits tight, but does not restrict blood flow. With this in place my sex is totally under her control.” “Now for the neat part.’ She said, pointing to the steel rings on the front and top of the lock. “I wanted to have some fun with him. So I had it made with a single loop in the front and three large loops on the bail, to top part of the lock.” “No problem.”  I agreed,  “Why the mods?” She giggled as she explained, “The front loop is for fun, say a leash or maybe a bell. The top loops are to make the lock bulky enough so that in order to urinate He cannot go through the fly of his slacks and underwear, instead he must drop his slacks and underwear. He will have to go in a stall. I wanted him to see what I have to go through just to urinate.” “But most importantly the Chastity Device might well be our salvation of all women because if a man  cannot have an affair or unprotected sex the threat of HIV and other STDs are eliminated. Not only must my husband be faithful, because he cannot have any form of sexual relief, he is also “highly motivated “ to save it all for me.” “In reality our sex has never been better!” The doctor pulled a chain with a gold key up from her sweater.
“How do you feel?” I asked. “I feel like a teenager. I have more energy and I think of my wife every time the lock sways and teases me.”  he replied confidently. “Would you two mind explaining this to my husband?” “No problem, usually we invite several other couples who are using the lock. The men in our group, the Brotherhood of the Latched, will help you husband through adaptation to putting on the lock and giving you the key.” “How soon could I get a lock?” I asked. I have several different sizes in stock. All I have to do is to file the saddle for precise fit and have the protective coating installed.” The doctor explained. Now our life is great. On his 60th birthday he had a full physical with al the blood work. Guess what? His testosterone level was “Acceptable” for a man in his 30’s. My husband is now truly my lover. He romances me every day. Every morning I am awakened with a loving caress, kisses and a full body massage. He knows that sex happens only when I want it so he tries to make the massage a stimulating and erotic as possible. If I am distracted or not interested he can add "direct genital stimulation" in order to make me really want sex.   With the lock in place I am his only sexual relief, he cannot: Masturbate Have an erection Have any form of sexual release. Correct fit is critical so that escape is impossible and urine flow is not obstructed. The lock must not be uncomfortable or too comfortable either, its fit must present a perfect balance of control, security and freedom.  My husband/ lover of these 30 + years is not a slave, but a willing partner who has given me and me alone control of his sex. By placing himself in the Chastity Device and giving me the key he has displayed the ultimate example of trust, faith and love. I love him more than ever! 

 How long have you been muzzled?  2 years and 1 month. What prompted you to decide to become muzzled?  Order of my Owner
Prior to being muzzled, on average how much did you masturbate? (i.e. 2 times a day, every 3 days...)  8 to 10 times a week
Was masturbation causing a problem in your relationship?  yes, it made me more arrogant and less considerate
What type of device are you using? Please note whether you are locked using a piercing as well.  currently a cb2000 but during the holidays i will be pierced for a Lori's #6 tube.
What is your release schedule (as in how many days must you wait between releases to ejaculate?)  it was once per calender year.  However, i was not allowed my last orgasm so now i am into the second year.  i have been told that i will not have one before the Lori's tube is locked on and once that is on the clock starts over for a full three year period.  So before my next one, it will be a total of 4 years and 3 months. When you are allowed to, how many ejaculations do you have are you allowed to ejaculate?)  only once in a painful manner (bengay, etc)
What does that ejaculation feel like - is it better to wait a long time or not? Is it worth ejaculating at all or is it better to just stay muzzled? (Some men really feel that the tradeoff of "ejaculation and the low period after that" is not worth it when compared to the 'high' you have after a log period of denial.)  i would prefer not having it.  It is a wonderful feeling but a mental let down.  Also, the desire to continue to have orgasms is much stronger afterwards and the subsequent chastity is much harder.
Where exactly is the trade-off point (in days) between the good-feelings of riding up the curve and when you get to the point of just "MUST" have to orgasm?  about the 6 month mark the "MUST" have feeling starts to level off.  The strong desire to have one never goes away but it levels off and is learned to be supressed.
How do your feelings change towards your Woman (and Women in general) as you ride up the curve? I.e. we all generally agree that you lose most of your good feelings and your respect for Woman for some period after ejaculation.  The longer i am in chastity the better i act.  i have not reached a plateau yet. How long does that last, and how does your 'Love & Respect' for your Woman grow over time.  It grows daily with the chastity.  i think it would be impossible for a muzzled man not to experience a "growth" in love & respect for all Women.
How long do you expect to remain muzzled? (i.e. 9 months, till She leaves me, forever?)  i expect to remain muzzled for the rest of my life.  i will be without an orgasm for another 3 years and 3 months for a total of 4 years and 3 months since my last one. 
Finally: What, if anything, do you wish your keyholder would do differently? Don't be shy here! It's just you sharing your experiences for our Women to better understand.  nothing except consider making the device permanent by way of glue or break off screws.  my orgasms are becoming so rare that there is not really a need for them any longer and i would prefer to show my devotion by completely giving them up.

I praise the comfort and of course it being escape proof on various chastity sites. Anyway, my wife has gotten to being my key keeper 100% and we have come up with our own not written anywhere contract.
Because of your device, my wife's participation, I love my wife as much as or more then I have ever loved her, and feel as passionate as I did about her as I did over 31 years ago.
We, of course do not make love as we did back then, so I had gotten in the habit of taking that matter in my own hands, and because of that, distant myself from her a little. One does not want or need to be too lovey dovey just after they have jerked off. I would not want my wife to want to fool around with me if I had just snuck off and jerked off 1 hour before. Anyway, thanks again.

HOW LONG? I've been muzzled for just under four years. REASON? When I met my girlfriend I was seeing other women. She didn't mind at first, but after a year or so she wanted to put an end to me seeing them. MASTURBATION? I
masturbated about once per day, but then there were the other women as well. She never regarded the masturbation as a problem. DEVICE? We use a CB3000 "Curve" which is OK but has a few problems (such as friction). We are
considering having me pierced and using something else. RELEASE SCHEDULE? We see each other about three times a week. We always have sex, after which I am let out perhaps once a week. However I may only be allowed to then climax
about 50% of the time. So, roughly, I get to come about once every two weeks. I am only ever allowed to climax once.

 DOES IT FEEL BETTER AFTER A LONG WAIT? A bit, but the real factor is how much she teases me. Whenever we
make love we keep going until she has had as many orgasms as she wants (she climaxes easily and quickly). Then she will spend the final part of the session on me. If this lasts, say, over an hour (during which time she makes me own up to humiliating things, agree to certain commitments, put me through certain types of torment, beg for release, pay her cash to come,
have the final decision on whether I climax be decided on the toss of a coin etc ) the eventual climax can be astonishing.

 TRADE-OFF POINT? It depends. Sometimes, if she teases and torments me, she can have me gagging for release the day after I've come. Usually it's bad after four days and after a week of not coming I'll agree to absolutely anything for a climax.

 HAVE YOUR FEELINGS TOWARDS WOMEN CHANGED? Not towards other women. I've always
treated them with respect. But my attitude towards my girlfriend has altered enormously. She's my only sexual outlet and as such I am extremely affectionate and eager to please. I certainly respect her more than I would if I were free.

 HOW LONG? We should be able to live together in about three years (when her daughters have left home). From then we'd both like it to be permanent.

WHAT WOULD I LIKE HER TO DO DIFFERENTLY? This is a difficult question because in any type of relationship where one partner is dominant the onus is often on that person to come up with new ideas; and my girlfriend gets fed up of this sometimes. I'd certainly like her to "turn the screw" more, increasing her degree of control. eg. Letting me climax less frequently, teasing me more, making me pay more to come etc. Recently she let me climax, then told me I wouldn't get to come again until she'd had 25 orgasms. An excellent idea. With a lot of help from me we reached the target in six days, whereupon she let me come again. So in this situation she could "turn the screw" and make a future target 35 orgasms.
Keith.
 

Dear Mistress Lori, I thought I had sent a reply but have been having a problem with my ISP so as I have learned it did not go out. I believe the message was something like this.

WOW this new chastity is incredible! Much more comfortable than the first one was straight out of the box. I wore it for nearly 24 hrs the first day and the ring has not been removed since receiving it. Mistress says that all looks very good and plans to keep me in it while she is gone from the 17 to the 30 of Jan. Thank you. Michael

The update to that is since I wrote that I have been in it now for 3 days nearly. The original tube would allow me to gain somewhat of an erection and would put incredible pressure on my piercing until I got used to wearing it and stopped erecting through the night. This one the first night let me know who is boss! I woke a few times trying to get hard and found that it just wasn't happening. I have almost stopped having nightly erections again. This morning Mistress surprised me with a session with the vibrator she knew I could defeat the original tube with. I had to be in the chastity for a couple of days to do this but could have a VERY small orgasm, well I am now even more frustrated after nearly 2 hours of Her tormenting and teasing me with that vibe she released me and watched as I tried to defeat it nothing happened not even a small tremor. 30 min later I quit too exhausted to continue to try and so horny I was and am still begging for any relief. So in conclusion after getting this thing on Fri eve I have been locked almost continuously since and have found this device to be the most secure and protected device we have tried you have really impressed us with yours and Paulie's ingenuity when it comes to chastity and although I am sure I will live to regret this I love it for now. thank you. Michael & Connie

Mistress Lori, First I want to thank you for my tube. I have been slow in sending this back to you because I wanted to get some experience in the tube. While I can't wear the tube for extensive periods of time it has been still been very effective. I wear it over night and whenever my wife does not directly supervise me. Over time this may change as my piercing toughens. My wife wanted me to expressly thank you for her because of the effectiveness of your tube. She says that after so many years I have finally started to learn how to make love and not just have sex. This is because after the last 5 weeks without an orgasm my expectation of having an orgasm while making love is gone. My pleasure now comes from touching her through massage and caressing and the pleasures she achieves while we make love. We have gone from 15-minute sex to hours of lovemaking.

Some of my observations about my tube:

1. My tube is the perfect size. The diameter is small enough to be quite constrictive but not too tight to cause edema. Once my penis is through the tube the glands of my penis acts like the barb on a fishhook preventing me from pulling out without water and lubrication. The hood is large enough to contain the glands when I am excited yet provides protection from stimulation.

2. The pin is the most critical part of the whole tube. If it is shaped incorrectly it can cause irritation and prevents long-term use. I have access to machine tools and make modifications as necessary. I have found that the pin needs to pivot. During "erection" (glands only) the pin has to move forward while when soft it must pivot all the way back to prevent any stress on the piercing. The ridge around my glands is sufficient to hold me in the tube while soft. I have had to do some light filing and grinding to allow the pivot and heat/bend the pin for the right shape. It is working really well now.

3. When the testie ring is employed the tube really needs to be full length. You may recall that my tube was originally ½ inch too short, which allowed that much of my penis to swell and expand when I was "erect". The result was that the testie ring was pulled forward with that expansion and caused the infamous "burn" associated with another device the CB-2000. I don't get any "burn" or discomfort with the corrected length tube you sent me. Again the size is close to perfect.

4. The testie ring is important for those of us with "hair trigger" orgasms. The ring actually prevents the tube from being pointed up which builds a psychological barrier to orgasm as well as protecting the stimulation points on the penis.

5. *IMPORTANT* I have changed the lock system on my tube. The advantage is that it is lightweight, more secure than a lock, stainless steel to prevent rusting and won't pinch or jab the scrotum. You may look at pictures of this on the "User Forum" website that I am maintaining. The lock consists of stainless screws, which have special security heads. There are literally millions of combinations available and without a high risk grinding they can't be removed. I know because my wife allowed me to try. At stake was two more months in chastity. I lost and will be able to tell you all about the frustration of 3 months in chastity next March. If you are interested in using this idea as an option with your tubes I can give you all the information.

Again, a deep felt thanks from my wife and I, Stan

Review of Ms Lori Chastity Tube
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I received my chastity device on Tuesday morning, my first impressions were Great service, Very well constructed. Wow this thing is heavy. I am never going to be able to get this off without a key or a hacksaw. I put it on with some difficulty, used the stocking method for the tube, that was the best way. Aligned the Frenum pin, not easy, but manageable and locked the padlocks. Having already given the keys to my key holder. It was a great fit, I have ordered to big a size for the security ring and will have this remedied in the near future.

The first 24 hours. No pain, discomfort when I get aroused but not unbearable by any means. I had a very strenuous day that day and with an hour or two almost forgot it was there. I can pee standing with out making a mess or spraying every thing in sight.

The first 4 days. Still a joy to wear it has not been off and I have had absolutely no problems at all. To compensate for the security ring being to big a good pair of underpants do the trick.

I will send another update after a month. I have tried another device similar to this the Remy chastity tube and there is no comparison. The Lori Tube is the ultimate for me. Thank you once again for such a great device.

Hi, I don't know if you remember me, be we spoke for a while in early April and May when I first got husband in chastity. Just wanted to update you and tell you how great things are going! I feel like I have a new best friend, not a husband. He has become more sensitive, not only to me, but to things in general. I see him cry now, more than I ever did before. Which could also be the hormones, but I think it is nice to see from him/her. He has also gotten some very nice little breasts, that look very cute in a bra! They aren't huge, but they are definitely softer, fuller and more sensitive than the way they used to look. Let's just say, he/she has to wear a jacket to work now, or people will notice. His little dick has become quite small, and doesn't get as hard, or big as it used to, and it kind of looks cute now when I take off his chastity. I always have him strapped down when I take it off, and he doesn't cum as hard, it kind of trickles out now, instead of shooting across the room. He always wanted me to swallow, so now I take it in my mouth and hold it, then spit it all into his/hers... now she has to learn to swallow! I LOVE making love to him, he uses his/her tongue great, and he/she is fantastic with a strap on! I give him pleasure about once a month, sometimes. But I am almost afraid to do that sometimes, because he becomes distant for the first couple of days after. He dresses and puts on his makeup when he comes home, and locks his collar on too. You have helped me train him/her very well. Thank you again for your help, and the magazine is fantastic too! My husband is the best pet any woman could ever have, and I think everyone should have a guy kept like this! Thanks again, Jacqueline

Hello

I have been using a CB-2000 for a while now and my Wife and I have directly observed all the benefits of keeping me 'chaste'. We have adopted the term 'muzzled' instead of 'chaste' or 'chastised' since it is, for us, a much better description of both the physical state of my privates as well as the emotional state of eliminating the dangerous/bothersome aspects of the male libido. (My Wife came up with that term!) We find it so illuminating - this stuff is for real - and are saddened that so many Women suffer so much abuse and disrespect at the hands of men - and the fact is that it can be fixed so easily, in a manner that I now know most men will end up enjoying. So, now that we KNOW this is the best way for men to live, it is time to get something serious and move away from the 'training wheels' of the plastic device. I am not pierced, although am willing to get this done to become securely muzzled. I hate to ask so many questions, but I could not find enough info on your site or the other related sites like Altairboy, etc. If there is a better FAQ on your devices I would love to see it. My questions are coming from my desire to be able to be muzzled indefinitely, so issues of comfort &sanitation are important to me.

Questions:

I'm leaning towards a Frenum piercing simply because I think it will be less bothersome to my Wife than a PA (the PA looks gruesome to some.) Is the Frenum adequate? YES, A FRENUM IS OK, 8 GAUGE OR BIGGER YOU CAN BE PIERCED 10 GAUGE AND STRETCH IT TO 8 GAUGE IN ABOUT 6 WEEKS. BY ALL THE FEED BACK I GET, THE P/A DEVICE SEEMS TO BE THE MOST COMFORTABLE TO WEAR ESPECIALLY FOR LONG TERM (:I LIKE THIS WORD ALSO:) ONCE AGAIN 8 GAUGE OR BIGGER IS BEST.

The CB2000 is just so bulky. I assume that your Tube is much less so, but I also need recommendations on the degree of curvature - is the curvature put in to make it more 'concealable' or is it for other reasons? IT IS FOR MORE THAN ONE REASON, IT IS LESS VISIBLE, IT IS MORE COMFORTABLE, IF YOU SHOULD TRY TO GET A ERECTION IN THE SEVERE CURVED IT IS NOT COMFORTABLE, IT WILL NOT BE COMFORTABLE IN ANY OF OUR DEVICES BUT LESS SO IN A SEVERE CURVED. THE SEMI BENT OR STRAIGHT TUBE CAN BE USED WITH THE SHEATH OVER IT SO YOU DO NOT GET TO EXPERIENCE THE NICE SOFT FEELING OF US WOMEN, AND NO MATTER WHAT YOUR LITTLE DICKIE DOES, SOFT OR HARD, THE CHASTITY REMAINS NICE AND STIFF INSIDE ITS LITTLE COVER SO WE CAN FINISH WHAT YOU MEN USUALLY START AND LEAVE US DANGLING, BASICALLY WHAT IT DOES IS GIVES YOU A LITTLE TASTE OF WHAT MEN HAVE BEEN DEALING OUT AS GOOD SEX, WE GET TO ENJOY YOU FOR AS LONG AS WE LIKE, AND THEN WHEN WE ARE DONE, WE CAN JUST PAT YOU ON YOUR LITTLE CHASTITY DEVICE AND TELL YOU "THAT'S IT HONEY ALL DONE" SO YOU SEE THERE ARE UPSIDES AND DOWN SIDES TO ALL THE TYPES OF DEVICES. THE SLIGHTLY-BENT IS KIND OF A IN BETWEEN THAT IS OUR MOST POPULAR.

Is the lock a bother when it's hanging on the side of the tube? I HAVE NOT HEARD OF THIS. I mean does it always rub on your leg or such? THE EDGES OF THE LOCKS ARE ROUNDED SO THEY CANNOT SCRATCH YOU, BUT IF YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT THIS YOU SHOULD BE WEARING PANTIES OR THOSE MEN'S BRIEFS THAT ARE REALLY PANTIES BUT HAVE A HOLE IN FRONT.

The weight of the device is also a concern, although I see that can be handled by a testie ring. Is the ring deemed to be comfortable by the men using them? I WOULD RECOMMEND THE RING IT SEEMS TO HELP KEEP THE WEIGHT OFF THE PIERCING, AND IT ALSO PULLS EVERYTHING UP TOGETHER SO GETTING A HARD ERECTION IS NOT POSSIBLE. EVERYONE HAS LIKED THEM SO FAR I HAVE HEARD NO BAD FEED BACK.

The reviews seem to indicate that the hood adds a lot of unnecessary bulk. I'd initially thought that complete encasement of the penis was necessary to achieve all the benefits, but I'm now coming to the realization that the only thing that is important is that removing the ability to masturbate or orgasm while wearing the device is the important thing. Is there any benefit of the hood to eliminate these things, or is the unhooded device sufficient? THIS IS A MATTER OF CHOICE, WHAT HAPPENS WITH A LORI'S DEVICE IS IT FITS SNUGGLY TO START WITH SO IF YOU ARE ABLE TO GET ENOUGH OF THE NECESSARY STIMULATION IT SWELLS WAY UP IN THE TUBE AND THE EJECTING MATTER CANNOT GO THROUGH THE PENIS GIVING YOU THAT ORGASM FEELING. YOUR PUMPS WORK BUT NOTHING OR VERY LITTLE COMES OUT UNTIL YOUR SWELLING GOES BACK DOWN AND THEN IT JUST DRIBBLES OUT SLOWLY FOR A LONG TIME. SOME MEN HAVE MORE SENSITIVE ORGANS THAN OTHERS SO SOME CAN USE A VIBRATOR OR MANIPULATE THE HEAD SO THEY CAN ORGASM, SOME CANNOT, I HAVE ONE CUSTOMER WHO HAS SENT THEIR DEVICE BACK TO HAVE MORE BARS ADDED TO THE HOOD, SO IT IS JUST A MATTER OF HOW SENSITIVE YOUR ORGANS ARE.

Is it possible to use a vibrator on the tube to achieve orgasm? SEE ABOVE. It certainly is with the CB2000.THE C/B 2000 ALSO IS NOT SECURE, AS YOU PROBABLY KNOW, BY PULLING AT THE BASE OF YOUR LITTLE DICKIE YOU CAN GET IT OUT AND DO BAD BOY THINGS WITH IT AND WAIT TILL IT GOES SOFT AND PUT IT RIGHT BACK IN. HMMMMMMMMMMMM? DOES YOUR WIFE KNOW THIS? I BET NOT... YOU SEE BY BEING IN THIS BUSINESS I GET TO LEARN ALL YOU BAD BOYS SECRETS.(SMILE)THERE IS NO DEVICE BEING MADE TODAY THAT IS SECURE WITHOUT A PIERCING ON THE END OF THE DICKIE TO SECURE IT IN PLACE. THAT'S JUST HOW IT IS, TO OUR KNOWLEDGE THERE ARE ONLY TWO PEOPLE MAKING "MUZZELING" (I REALLY LIKE THIS WORD) ITEMS THAT REQUIRE PIERCING TO RESTRAIN THE ITEM IN QUESTION. GOOD LUCK IN YOUR DECISIONS, KEEP IN MIND IT TAKES ABOUT 4 TO 5 MONTHS AT THIS THE TIME TO GET A "MUZZELER" FROM US, IN THE LAST YEAR OUR DEVICES HAVE BECOME VERY POPULAR AND WE ARE BACKLOGGED, OUR USED DEVICES ON OUR "USED CHASTITY PAGE" HAVE BEEN BRING UP TO $150.00 MORE THAT NEW ONES AND HAVE BEEN SELLING AS QUICK AS ONE DAY. SO A LORI'S CHASTITY DEVICE IS A GOOD INVESTMENT. THINK OF WHAT THE PRICE WILL BE WHEN WE STOP MAKING THEM.

Mistress Lori I appreciate Your time in this matter. I appreciate all you have done for the cause.
My very best regards, Locked Up and Loving It, MT

Mistress Lori,

Thank you for your prompt reply. I have a couple more questions I forgot to post in the prior email, but I must elaborate on me and my Wife's feelings on all of this. The Muzzle has been the single most important thing to happen to us as a couple, and to me as a man. So much so that we are leaning very strongly towards taking on as a CAUSE the task of "Letting Woman Know the Secret!" This is much too important to keep to ourselves. But, of course, this is disturbing stuff to most of us westerners, and extremely scary to those who would keep Womanhood suppressed (i.e. most men). So we are a bit, shall I say, concerned about how to go about this. Everyone (well, folks like us who live in small-town America) is of course a bit afraid to come out of the closet on this.

For the record, my muzzling is my entire fault {isn't it always?}, meaning in this case that I'm the one who found out about how folks were solving that age-old problem we men are cursed with. My Wife now says that the Garden of Eden actually brought 2 curses upon humankind - women got painful childbirth and men got an insatiable sex drive (which I could argue is much worse). A man's libido certainly is a problem, arguably the biggest one humankind has.

Anyway, we had been married for about 10 years with our relationship slowly going downhill. Bottom line was that I was felling neglected because She wasn't interested in sex with me, I got depressed, played with myself all the time, which removed any incentive for me to actually solve the problem. She was feeling pressure from me, which turned Her off, and made Her even less inclined to want to 'be' with me. (I'm omitting the next 5 paragraphs of my story, since it is the Same old story, right?) (By the way, your descriptions of all of this are quite good... It REALLY hit home with the discussion of replacing the fantasy void with fantasies of my Wife as opposed to fantasies of "other women". That made lots of sense to both of us...)

Anyway, through some inspiration I figured out that it was the masturbation that was part of the problem (little did I know then how BIG a part of the problem is was!) and started to do some research on the web about it - curbing it, stopping it, etc. Of course it didn't take long to find Altairboy's site, and the more I read the clearer it became that the problem in our relationship was 100% my fault, not Hers at all. I knew that a muzzle would go a long way to fixing things up. (Little did I know, once again, how many things the muzzle would fix up...) Well, to make another long story short it took me about 4 weeks of discussions to convince her that a muzzle would be a good thing. (OK, let me be honest, that she could kind of see that it might help, so she agreed with me to go ahead and give it a try...) She of course could not understand it at all, but I suppose she figured there was SOME merit to what I was suggesting. We had a lot of illuminating discussions about the male sex drive, how we are constantly driven to 'release', blah, blah. Again, same old story. Finally I ordered a CB-2000 since it seemed the best solution for my needs at the time.

Well, it came; I got it all comfy-cozy, and locked it on. We have a very vanilla sexual relationship (which all men abhor, right {grin}?), so she really wasn't interested in the key holder roll at all, particularly since all of the material I could find on muzzling had a FemDomm kind of bent to it which, bottom line, basically turned her off. So while I could get SOME of the benefits of a muzzle, the major bennie (of Her as a Key holder) was missing... Looking back at it now, I had a LOT to learn over the next few months..

I DID see a lot of benefits right away (some within minutes of butting on my muzzle) though which included:

Reduced sensitivity - do you have any idea what it is like to have one of your most sensitive parts always swinging around & getting slightly stimulated? No wonder men are always horny... Those feelings were essentially eliminated totally. My penis was like, gone. No feeling whatsoever. A good thing, much less distracting... I now know one of the reasons Women aren't as horny as men are - their sensitive bits are all tucked away nice and neat, away from all but the most direct stimulation... For me anyway, and I think most men, when they get fully erect they focus on only one thing - ejaculation. My thinking was that well, the muzzle was good at keeping me from getting totally erect so that should reduce my unintentional (yeah, sure!) but unstoppable desire to RELEASE and allow me to focus on Her needs. I think it does do a pretty good job at that. Just having it on when getting intimate provides a strong mental stimulus to 'be nice'. And of course the feedback of having your balls stretched away from your body when trying to get erect does have a bit of a dampening effect (unless you like that kind of pain, of course.) (Now, wearing a clubFEM MCD, that's a whole different kind of damper, for sure!. But that again is a different story.) The feeling of wearing the muzzle is of course erotic in its own sense - a constant reminder of whatever it is you want or need to be reminded of. I finally had a good reason to have more intimate talk about my sexuality with my Wife (i.e. one that benefits us both, not just my interests...). Lots more. My message to men is: "hey, you want your significant other to be more involved with your sexuality? Muzzle it and its yours for the asking." And of course, when I stopped masturbating, after about 3 days I started to go up what I now call 'the curve' (I know someone else has a different use for that term...) The Feelings Curve. It is a combination of frustration and horniness. Both, but not either exactly. But I think my Wife came up with the term Forlornness (combo of Frustration & Horny, obviously {grin}) The longer I went between releases, the hornier I got. What I didn't expect at all was that along with that increasing level of Forlornness came an almost unbelievable sense of "I Feel Good". "Yes, I'm horny and frustrated, and I've never felt more alive in my life." And as I was to find, the longer I rode up the curve, the better I felt. So of course we researched this and then found out all about the benefits of conserving semen (yet another whole subject). Oh yeah, and multiple male orgasms, without ejaculation, of course. That's quite cool! The bottom line is that it is GOOD, really GOOD, not to ejaculate, at least for reasonable periods of time.

OK, so its this wonderful feeling I have, my Wife is getting much more of the attention She deserves (can I say a LOT More?), and life is wonderful. I really don't want this thing off. It's almost like it's better to NOT orgasm ever and keep riding up the curve (man do I hate saying that!). But oh, is it frustrating! Kind of like when you play with a loose tooth, it hurts a lot but you keep doing it. Well, maybe not like that.. Whatever, you can't explain it...

There are a bunch more, but to save time I'll leave them out - perhaps in another e-mail.

Onward. Well, lets just say that after a number of months of living with a muzzled man (man) my Wife is CONVINCED that muzzling a man WORKS as described. No question in Her mind at all. This is good stuff. Still not really fully into the key holder role as of yet ("I really don't want yet another responsibility to worry about...") I mean she held the key but wasn't getting the rest of the benefits she deserved. Then I stumbled across your discussions of chastity on your web site, printed them out for Her, and the rest is history. She UNDERSTANDS. She UNDERSTANDS that She must be in control of this, that She must be the one to fill my fantasy void, and that "now you are in real trouble, boy... I'm not sure I EVER want you to take this off! I REALLY LIKE you when you are muzzled."

All right, so here are 2 open-minded folks that believe strongly that "Women Deserve to Know." We spend a lot of time discussing how a muzzle would solve this same problem in one friends relationship, the nasty problem in another's relationship, and on and on. We lok at other Women and say to each other "if you only knew.." The main problem is that there is not a complete source of info out there that is A) concise, and B) not scary to the vanilla folks. We have to build a resource to discuss this in a manner that hopefully can get a lot of information in front of both men and Women so they can hopefully see that Muzzles are a Good Thing. No talk of femDOMM, of control, of whippings or sissy-maids, etc. No mention of Chastity Belts, or orgasm denial. Just nice soft straight talk (ok it's not that soft) about how men REALLY are, how this is BAD for Woman i particular and society in general, and how there is a solution that Works: Muzzle your Man. It really is that simple.

Why? Because Muzzling Matters!

Bottom line is that a muzzle focuses a man's sexual energies toward his partner. It increases them as well. All of them (the energies, that is!) And, for better of for worse, that is all a man really has to offer. That force drives ever f**king thing a guy does. Sad, no? Well, can't defeat biology. That is just the way it is... And all Woman deserve a muzzled man (of course {grin} if they want a man at all!) OK, I'm done preaching for a while. (Can you tell this is something I believe in?) Does any of this make sense? Is there even a chance in hell that we can help ANY Women? I know I want my daughters to be 'enlightened' when they get old enough. "Want Her hand in marriage? Sure, after you put this on young man and give her the key..."
Thanks for listening! mT

I hope all is well with you. My most precious Woman and I have been quite busy keeping up with all the interesting knowledge that the Goddess has been sharing with us. I'm sending you the following thought process I had yesterday just in case you see anything interesting or have any comments.

She had read in a book that in reality all human males are predators, either towards other humans or any other animals. In the case of Women, males are sexual predators. This led me to the following...:

The goal of this: to understand deeply the plight of the preyed upon Women from a sexual perspective. The reality of this: men have always felt guilt, a shared guilt that comes in from the common collective... Men try to hide from this guilt, to suppress this guilt, by suppressing the very origin of it - male domination of Women. They hide from it by perpetuating the very causes of it in the first place!!! Continue the domination & suppression and then you don't have to face the truth...

This guilt manifests itself in the following ways: Men have a number of very common fantasies:

Bondage - being tied and kept helpless and unable to defend against any advance. This is what men have intellectually and emotionally and often physically done to Women. A mans desires to be bound by a Woman is an unintentional act of attempted penance for this sin against the Goddess in all Women. That it is connected to sexual situations is a testament to the sexual predator that exists in EVERY male. Also by being made helpless the male acknowledges his subservience to his Alpha Woman in particular and all Women in general.
Spanking - being spanked is the common penance for a past transgression. Since males continuously transgress on the rights of Woman, they also continuously seek punishment for the same. They KNOW in their gut they have done wrong and continue to DO wrong, and their desire to be spanked or punished by other physical means is a feeble attempt to make up for it. They just don't understand WHY they feel this way. Once again, the fact that males think of this is a sexual context is yet another testament to the sexual predator that exists in EVERY male.
Submissiveness/Humiliation/feminization, et al - men desire to be ultimately controlled by their Woman or their collective Women (if in a group setting.) There are a number of aspects to this feeling and it manifests itself in many different ways in different men. Ultimately, though, men DO want to be controlled and WANT to worship Women. I bet that every male at the Grey Ranch will attest to this. I know that my allegiance to you, my ineffable feeling of subservience to you, my complete devotion to you - I know these feelings can extend to a larger group of Women. That ( and I hate to say this because it is embarrassing) I know that I would be happy serving 1 or many Women, in whatever manner they choose. Most men would never admit this, but they secretly have fantasies about this very subject. And once more, a male will connect these feelings to sexual situations, revealing again the sexual predator that exists in EVERY male.
Wanting a Dominant woman - because they know that dominating Women is not the natural order, all men secretly desire to be dominated by their Woman or Women. But they cannot face this reality so they spend their energies dominating & controlling them. They will always be the initiators of sex, and foster the notion of the 'protected little woman' who swoons at the sight of their man. In reality the male should NEVER be the ones initiating sex - this is the exclusive domain of the Female - and that they are wrong in doing so. But the sexual predator in every male does not allow them to see this.

This is so very clear now. These common fantasies of men are just manifestations of their attempts to get away from their guilt, to try to free themselves from the sexual predator within. They don't know this of course.... And that these 'kinks' as they are called are held in such a bad light by society is an interesting phenomenon, one that leads me to believe that the collective male predator is actively trying to prevent the use of these 'therapies' by individual males to gain in their healing... That this collective feels threatened by this and does what it can to suppress it.

I think that all men know this at some level, but that it gets drowned out. Society is just a manifestation of the (mostly) male dominated collective thought, and this is dominated by the sexual predator within. That's why all the media is so hell-bent on portraying Women as sex objects; this helps perpetuate this situation.
Thank you, T

Dear Miss Lori, I have been looking through various places on the internet in search of a chastity device to surprise my Mistress with as a present and once I can get over the idea of having myself pierced and asking Mistress permission to do so I will almost certainly be purchasing one of your devices.Currently I have been called Toy by my Mistress for nearly 2.5 years and have a much different reasoning for looking into a chastity device than those written about in stories on your website, however over the last 2.5 years each and every use of my shaft has been at Mistress's desire and generally comes anywhere from 1-2 weeks all the way up to 1-2 months apart, many times with a great number of times Mistress teases me just to watch my reaction for her enjoyment.

Shortly after being honored with a collar by my Mistress she had placed her hand over my member, stared into my eyes, and uttered the words "this is mine... it belongs to me". She was overjoyed with pride in me when I agreed and had told her that since the first time I submitted to her will and desires I had not touched it save for cleaning and such without her having desired it to be touched even after some grueling sessions of teasing where I was ordered to spend 3-8+ hours bringing myself just short of climax, stopping, waiting an hour without allowing myself to go limp, and repeating, then being sent to bed. as a side note to those Women reading this who own male bits this is probably the single most difficult thing I've ever had to endure, right down to curling into a fetal position and whimpering at Mistress's feet because of it). Since that point she took delight in knowing how willing I was to do things to please her and especially enjoys watching me curl into a fetal position and hug her legs till I fall asleep knowing full well that despite the fact that the above mentioned teasing sessions often times leave me shaking and whimpering for hours. I will never touch myself nor ask permission to do so (cleaning and such aside since I have been given blanket permission to do so when needed).

While searching the internet for ways to better please and/or amuse Mistress I had read about the anticipation and anxious thrill simply being shown the key to one's chastity device could cause. This was something I could easily understand having in the past worn the gates of hell out to dinner and whimpered in my chair when she did things like run her foot up my inner thigh and across my groin, across her property, for several minutes.

I wanted to give her the ability to tease me simply by toying with a key and chuckling at me however it seemed that everything that could do this required removing use of as long as it was in place a part of my body that she owns completely that she often covered in wax, then a condom (I am snipped for her, the condom is to be sure the wax stays on me) to be sure her toy stayed useful and did not do anything he was not given permission to without her having to be hassled with having to endure pauses in her use of her toy.

Your chastity device along with the slide on latex sheath will allow her to have the ability to tease me with simply a key in sight and still enjoy unlimited use of all her toy's parts.

I humbly thank you for reading the story of my devotion to my Mistress and hope that it has at least helped to make you smile to know that there are males who place the will and desire of their Mistress above all else including the desire to touch themselves without her wishes no matter how strong.

Toy

Hello Lorie. You might like to read this. I think this says it all. I know that since John has been wearing his chastity he wants to stay right at my side. I think he is hoping for some freedom. Its not going to happen for awhile maybe next year. I hope you like this letter I found online good bye for now. Angel.

Phil, That's a really good question. Ok so let's be completely open and honest here. First there is NO physical device which can prevent the male orgasm. Orgasms originate in the mind and with the right set of events anyone can and will achieve orgasm. I HAVE had an orgasm with the Lori's tube. (surprise, shock) however, it was sooooooo unsatisfying that I might as well not have bothered. If the tube is properly sized the passage for the seminal fluid is so constricted that you can only drip where once you squirted. The PLEASURE in the male orgasm comes as the seminal fluid flows up and out triggering nerves in the process. So yes, I had drips which continued for hours but no, I didn't enjoy it at all. I encourage everyone with a tube to give it their best to masturbate with the tube on. Do it once. Do it twice. Do it enough that you conclude as I have that there is no joy in that kind of masturbation and you look elsewhere for your pleasure. I know that it will be hard for anyone who hasn't experienced it to understand, but I find it much more satisfying to give my wife a full body massage than to try masturbating with the tube. It has become a tremendous "turn-on" for me to massage her and I can continue for hours. She loves it and will allow me to massage her any time, any place. So you be the judge. Would you rather have 2 hours of pure sexual pleasure followed by frustration or would you rather have 30 seconds of sexual pleasure followed by frustration.

I hope this answers your question.

Stan
Love Mistress Lori Lancer, the chastity tube no. six has been received and I have this my husband equal put. It sees very good from. Again thank-you. Now a question, there is a chance of, that one the castles remote plus the pipe forever locks! I want subsequent in six months think husband for ever chaste keep. Best regards Marie Louise

Hi Lori, I got my chastity tube today. It is really fine work, I rarely feel that what I get is more than I pay for. My domme/mistress is really impressed with it. For now, I have to put the securing shaft through the ring of my Frenum piercing as it is not yet ready to be stretched. It twists a bit but is still comfortable. I am really happy!

A couple of suggestions. 1] Make the tube with a taper. Mine is 1 inch in diameter. It would fit the contour of the penis shaft a bit better if it tapered from 1 inch to a bit wider at the back. 2] Make your locks with smooth edges! Thank you once again. John

How long have you been muzzled?  1 year and 11 Months
What prompted you to decide to become muzzled?  Desire of my Owner
Prior to being muzzled, on average how much did you masturbate? (i.e. 2 times a day, every 3 days...)  8 to 10 times a week
Was masturbation causing a problem in your relationship?  yes, it made me more arrogant and less considerate
What type of device are you using? Please note whether you are locked using a piercing as well.  currently a cb2000 but at the 1 year mark i will be pierced and measured for a #6
What is your release schedule (as in how many days must you wait between releases to ejaculate?)  currently it is once per year but that will be modified to less when the new #6 is placed on
When you are allowed to, how many ejaculations do you have are you allowed to ejaculate?)  only once in a painful manner
What does that ejaculation feel like - is it better to wait a long time or not? Is it worth ejaculating at all or is it better to just stay muzzled? (Some men really feel that the tradeoff of "ejaculation and the low period after that" is not worth it when compared to the 'high' you have after a log period of denial.)  i would prefer not having it.  It is a wonderful feeling but a mental let down.  Also, the desire to continue to have them is stronger afterwards and the subsequent chastity is much harder.
Where exactly is the trade-off point (in days) between the good-feelings of riding up the curve and when you get to the point of just "MUST" have to orgasm?  about the 6 month mark the "MUST" have feeling starts to level off.
How do your feelings change towards your Woman (and Women in general) as you ride up the curve? I.e. we all generally agree that you lose most of your good feelings and your respect for Woman for some period after ejaculation.  The longer i am in chastity the better i act.  i have not reached a plateau yet. How long does that last, and how does your 'Love & Respect' for your Woman grow over time.  It grows daily with the chastity.
How long do you expect to remain muzzled? (i.e. 9 months, till She leaves me, forever?)  currently the next 1 year mark is in a month.  After that the new #6 goes on and it is my understanding that it will be at least 3 years until the next release.
Finally: What, if anything, do you wish your keyholder would do differently? Don't be shy here! It's just you sharing your experiences for our Women to better understand.  nothing except consider making the device permanent by way of glue or break off screws.                                      
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